Preeti Subberwal is an Executive Coach, Leadership and Behavioral trainer and founder of Thoughtful Engagement, a firm that facilitates leadership in individuals and organizations. She is also a Holistic Pregnancy Coach and author of life transforming books like “Life Mantras by a Life Coach”.
M- What learning you impart to your own children regarding life?
P- My message to my children: You are a special person with unique gifts, talents and abilities. Cherish your authentic self and don’t waste your time and energy in comparing yourself with others, rather focus on becoming your best version every single day!
M- How did you come up with the idea of writing your own books?
P- Being born in a family of authors, there has been a lot of inspiration to express myself through writing. Writing seems like a love affair for me as I feel deeply connected to my content. I could figure out the uniqueness of my books for creating value for my readers.
M- You are a part of so many organizations like Landmark leadership program, Toastmasters international, etc. What all organization do you follow and what all you have learned from them so far. Out of these, which organizations you refer to other people you met.
P- There is always a scope for improvement and it’s wonderful to be a part of the organizations that are world’s leaders in their respective domains. I keep recommending Toastmasters international to the people who want to polish their public speaking & leadership skills and Landmark Worldwide for their personal transformation.
M- You face always glow with an ever widening smile. Is it just the beauty or there are secrets behind it which make you always glow.
P- Thanks for the lovely compliment. I am excited and passionate about life and I keep discovering things that add to my happiness. And I love to smile as it not only makes me feel good but also spread infectious positive energy to the people around.
M- How do you manage between family and work?
P- I strive to maintain work-life balance by aiming for exceptional family life and exceptional work life. Sometimes, I do fail to balance it, but life is all about being at the cause side by doing your bit, and not on the effect side by getting bothered about what’s happening.
M-Do your in-laws, husband and your parents support you in your ventures?
P- I am blessed to have a caring and understanding husband who supported me to take the plunges and gave me the wings to soar. For all my ventures, I get loads of encouragement and appreciation from my parental and extended family and they are the pillars, I can lean on.
M- Did it happen that there was a quarrel in your family due to your work. How did you handle such situations?
P – I can hardly recall any such incident as my family has always supported me throughout my career and business. I invest a lot of time and energy on maintaining love, peace and harmony at home so that such situations can be prevented to a large extent.
M- A lady is always more attached to her own mother than mother-in-law. Is it the same in your case as well or it’s opposite. What’s the reason for the same.
P – Every relation has its own place in our life. I was extremely attached to my mom, unfortunately lost her to cancer three years back. My mother-in-law embraced me from the very first day of my marriage. Both of us try our best to maintain the harmony in our relationship.
M- Was there any phase in your life when you were shattered and started all over again and how you managed that
P- When I launched my venture – “Thoughtful Engagement” around three years back, there was a phase when managing finances was a major issue. I was not shattered as such but did feel low at times. Somehow, I managed to respect my decision of quitting my job and never looked back.
M- How would you react if you see a gang of boys passing comments on a girl or teasing her.
P- Can I please not answer this?
M- How did your upbringing and facilities provided by your parents made you what you are.
P- I feel privileged with the way I was raised and the values and habits my parents instilled in me. I am grateful to them for creating a strong intellectual and spiritual foundation. They gave me a sense of worth and allowed me to be who I wanted to be.
M- Are you satisfied with your life and are at peace?
P- If I am completely satisfied, then I would stop taking actions to grow and develop myself. I do experience peace and feel blessed to be able to pursue my passions and live life, I truly love.
M- What drives your life i.e. inspires you and motivates you to keep going?
P- I am inspired to give my family, friends, clients and whoever becomes a part of my journey, an absolute certainty about my compassion for them. I embark on the quest to live life with boundless joy and immense fulfillment in service to humanity.
M- How did it feel to become Mrs. India Charity 2017
P- It certainly feels great when you get recognition at a National level for who you are and what you are committed for.
M- How did you decide or what made you to enter into this contest?
P- I saw their post on Facebook, and was impressed to see their connection with Mrs. Universe Ltd. I love to challenge myself through new and richer experiences. I couldn’t resist auditioning for this pageant and was happy to be selected as a finalist.
M- How did you feel that you were not able to make it to the Mrs. India 2017 title after being selected as one of the finalist?
P- I feel truly happy for the winner. I could take it in the positive stride as I have complete faith in the workings of universe, whatever happens is best for me. Secondly for me, winning is not important, but playing to win is.
M- How was the behavior of co-participants to you or rather how were you to them?
P – I could intermingle well with the contestants. My room partner was very supportive and I am happy to get two friends for life in the pageant.
M- Do you think there is any kind of politics in these contests?
P- Politics is prevalent everywhere, that’s the innate nature of human beings.
M- Did at any point of your time your husband or your in-laws or anyone demotivated you or became an obstacle in your path. How you overcame it.
P- They never demotivated or discouraged me. On the contrary, there came a phase after my second child, when I was fine with my aspirations taking a back seat. They were the ones who encouraged me to do justice to my ambitions.
M- Being such a successful women, how do you handle failure.
P- I don’t see failure as a setback but as a feedback. If we want to succeed faster, we need to be willing to fail faster. I firmly believe that we never fail, our actions may fail. So I focus on taking the learnings and moving forward, no matter what life throws on me!
M- Being a life coach and trainer, how many lives have you changed as of now. Is it a career, passion or something else for you.
P- Well, with the grace of Almighty, I have been able to touch a few hundreds life, don’t have the exact count though. Making a difference is the purpose of my life and this is what makes my life meaningful!
M- What would you have been doing if you were not a life coach and trainer.
P- I would have continued to work in IT industry. I was working as a Senior Manager at a renowned Telecom S/w company before I quit my job to pursue my passion.
M- What is your view of changing your surname and name after marriage.
P- Marriage is like a rebirth for me, I was willing to recreate myself at all levels and changing my surname is a very small part of it.
M- Have you also been through eve teasing, etc. How did you tackle the same and what message you want to give in that context.
P- There have been many instances of eve-teasing that I have encountered. Sometimes, I ignored, sometimes, I reacted, and in some cases, I had to take help from the male family members and friends. The message I want to give is, it’s entirely up to us how much we allow anything to impact us and the focus should be always on taking powerful and effective actions to deal with any such unpleasant thing instead of indulging in disempowering feelings.
M- What is your view about the expenditure in weddings and indirect dowry.
P- I am not in favor of expenditure in weddings and indirect dowry. I ensured that my marriage didn’t put a hole in my parent’s pocket.
M- Do you also feel nervous at time and how you manage the same.
P- Not nervous exactly, there are times, when I tend to feel low. Bigger, better, more is something that the mind always desires. But I am able to separate myself from such negative thoughts and feelings and don’t let them affect me beyond a certain level.
M- Do you think you inspire other people in life, if yes, how.
P- I do aspire to inspire and many people have shared that they consider me as their source of inspiration. I don’t look at my accomplishments as something big. I have taken a few steps in my journey and have a long way to go, to make a mark at the international level.
M- Anything else you want to share which I have not covered or which you feel will inspire the audience from your life
P- I would like to share these lines that I wrote sometime back. “The worst prison is the prison of our conditioning. The toughest wall to conquer is the wall of our fixed ideas. The inner demons are the most difficult to defeat!” So, the only person that can stop you from living life powerfully is yourself. Once you conquer yourself, you can conquer the world!
M- Did you take any special coaching or guidance from the experts for the pageant?
P- I would like to mention the names of a few people who provided me their services with due-diligence and a personal touch. With their unwavering support, it could have been possible for me to prepare myself in less than two weeks.
Fitness Consultancy: Ankur Sood_Forme Fisique
Designer Gowns: Vogue Villa – Mandeep Harminder
Jewellery Credit: Prettify Trends by Ekta Jain
Domestic Violence Video Film: Dr. Manju Subberwal
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